Sexism in F/m Video Production - A Damn Good Rant

A little practical note before I start

For some reason I have not been able to get the spell checker to work on blogger for a few days. I do suffer with a literacy condition and find that using spell checker helps me overcome this when checking my writing. So no matter how often I re-read and re-check my writing I will still miss bad spelling, words improperly spaced and occasionally words written the wrong way around. I apologize for this in advance.

Why am I ranting about this now

Pandora Blake's, Pandora's blog recently started a debate on feminism within the CP/BDSM scene, which spread to Niki Flynn's Not A Blog, Adele Haze's A Spanking Model Speaks and to a lesser extent on some other blogs. I deliberately did not participate in the comments following these postings because I did not want to run the risk of ranting in another bloggers comment box and because although I think the feminist cause is important and worthwhile I only see it as one group fighting against sexism in general, which I hope to explore here and now.

Not model quality myself

I have never, nor am ever likely to model as a sub/bottom and even if the opportunity arose I do not think that I would want to. So please do not think that I am whining about not being able to model under the same conditions that female bottoms/subs enjoy. I am writing this because the situation amongst many F/m video producers is sexist to the point that it sickens and disgusts me.

Bottom of the pile

As any unattached male sub/bottom discovers early on their journey into the world of CP or BDSM, we are at the bottom of the pile within the fetish scene. Mostly this is due to the fact that you will always find far more males who describe themselves with a small "m" than their are unattached female Tops/Dommes. You start to get used to the tirade of barriers thrown in your way by your fellow fetishists, doors slammed in your face, limited male entry, tickets cost extra for men, the list could go on for ever. Sometimes this just has to be, as in the case of "limited male entry" I doubt very much whether any event would be successful if the men outnumbered the women by thirty or forty to one. A lot of the time it is not acceptable, as is the case for "tickets cost more for men than women" that is just out and out sexism and is not made more acceptable because it is men rather than women that are being discriminated against. This especially irks me when I see this attitude amongst video producers of F/m materiel.

What is wrong

Most consumers of spanking material would be shouting with rage if they thought that female bottoms/subs where not being paid for their work but many F/m producers do not pay their male bottoms/subs, many do not even pay traveling expenses. These filthy, sexist, rip off sites, expect men to come and appear in spanking scenes, that the company will use to try and make money and sometimes they even expect men to pay their own expenses out of their own pockets, HOW WRONG IS THAT?

One particular company in the USA really got my blood boiling when I saw the conditions that they published on their website related to recruiting male models. I will not say which company it is but they also produce material featuring female subs/bottoms who they do pay, WHAT A DISGUSTING DOUBLE STANDARD! After learning this I decided not to buy any of their DVDs F/m, M/f or F/f unless they change their policy towards male subs/bottoms. As I said I will not name the company but I will write a few of the things that they ask of their male sub/bottom models and what I think of them.

Expect to travel to our studio in XXXXXX, XXXXXXXX at your own expense - So they want a sad sap to pay out of his own pocket so that they can make money from him.

Expect to be here less than one hour - They do not intend to be even polite or civil to the guy, they will drag him in, use him for their own profit and then boot him out of the door ASAP.

Expect to give little input - They are not interested in what their victim thinks or feels he is just there to be used and ripped off.

Let me ask you this. Do you not think that if a company tried to recruit female models with these policies, there would not be screaming indignation across the fetish world?

And this. Why should male subs/bottoms be expected to put up with this blatant sexism when their female counterparts are not?

And it may be even worse

This is hearsay but I have heard tell of producers that charge men to be bottoms/subs in their spanking material. I don't know how true this is, I would like to find out if this is so, or just a false rumour.

A couple of shining lights in the dark night

I do not want to just want to rant and moan about the bad producers. Along with pointing out the negative, it is important to promote the positive. One company, who's policies have only recently came to my notice is Shadow Lane who have the policy of paying all their models the same rate, regardless of them being male, female, top or bottom. I do not own any of Shadow Lane's F/m DVDs but I plan to change that soon. The other company Full Force, I hope are are still following their policy that they had on their old site in paying regular male bottoms who appear for them. Since changing sites I cannot find any information on how they recruit or reward their bottoms now but I hope their old policy still stands. These are the only two producers of F/m DVDs that I would consider buying from at the moment.

My respect for models

I like to follow the work of many spanking models because I respect and admire them and their work, I describe myself as a fan but most of them are female. I just could not respect or admire men who allow themselves to be ripped off, used, and belittled by companies who do not reward their male bottoms/subs in the same way that females are rewarded. In fact I despise them I think they are bad examples of male subs/bottoms and do not wish to be associated with them. I would never be so pathetic as to put up with the conditions that some of of these men put up with, they are not like me, I do not want to identify with them. I would like to see more properly paid and respect worthy male subs/bottoms in spanking DVDs that I can look up to and admire for quality performances.

My wallet is closed

Apart from, from the two companies already mentioned, I refuse to buy F/m material. I hope that others will follow that example and drive out the sexist F/m producers by making them unprofitable. Then perhaps we will see more responsible producers thriving in the market and some more decent male subs/bottoms coming to notoriety for people to respect.

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